As you get into the routine of texting a man you’re interested in, you’ll start to notice certain patterns. There are texts in the morning…maybe during your lunch break…and then before you go to bed. Getting into a routine with texting is a good thing! But you don’t want him to always be the one starting a text conversation with you. In this article, I’m going to give you some sample good morning texts for him to make him want you, in case you need a little inspiration!
Each section below is tailored toward whatever specific situation you’re in:
- You connected on a dating app but haven’t met in person yet
- Once you’ve had your first date
- After you’ve had sex
- When you want to take the relationship further
- Once you’re settled into a relationship
Keep in mind, these are just example good morning texts for him! I encourage you to customize them however you want.
Good Morning Texts for Him If You’re Just Starting to Talk
If you’ve met on a dating app and are in that fun getting-to-know-you phase, keep it light and focus on creating consistency in your texts. It’s nice to establish that rhythm of texting one another first thing in the morning at this point.
While you’re working on getting to know one another, the first text of the day probably shouldn’t do a deep dive into a conversation. After all, he’s either still half asleep or is getting ready for work. Keep it simple and upbeat. Focus on writing something that requires a response.
Here are some examples:
“Hey, cutie! What’s on your plate today?”
It’s easy-breezy. You’re really just looking to start a conversation. But hey, if the question opens the door to him saying he’s free in the evening, you might just end up with a date tonight!
“Morning! Today’s your big presentation at work, right?”
A text like this is designed to show him that you’re paying attention to what he tells you. The more interest you show, the more connection he feels to you.
“Good morning! I know you’re going to crush it today!”
This is a good supportive text, and it lays the foundation for him thinking of you as good girlfriend material. You’re already cheering for him with whatever he’s got going on, whether it’s a job interview or a soccer game.
Why a Good Morning Text is important: This early in the game, you want to make sure you stay on his mind. You show that he’s on yours by carefully crafting what you say to him first thing in the day, and you increase the likelihood of him asking you out on a date.
Texts for Him After Your First Date
So you’ve gone out with this man and boy, did sparks fly. Maybe you kissed him…maybe you didn’t…but either way, you’re eager to see what’s next with him.
The key here is to let him know you’re totally into him. A lot of times, you’re just processing information on a first date, and you aren’t really sure what to make of it. Sometimes you just need to sleep on it to realize that yeah, you want to see him again…soon. He may feel the same way, so getting that message from you will move things along.
Don’t be shy to be a little more open with your feelings in these good morning texts for him.
“Hey there! Can’t get last night’s kiss off my mind…”
Just go straight for the kill. Bring up that kiss to get the conversation centered around the attraction you felt last night on that date. He’ll dig it.
“Morning! I dreamed of those tacos we had yesterday. I’m already ready for more!”
If you’re not so forward and want to ease into talking about that smooch (or not), then bring up a highlight from the date. Just a note: if anything went bad (the food was terrible), don’t bring that up or you’ll seem like you’re complaining. Not the way you want to start his day.
“Good morning! Thanks again for such a wonderful evening. You really are a gentleman. Even opened my car door for me!” 😍
If you didn’t text him after the date last night to thank him for it (which is totally acceptable to do, in my mind), first thing the next morning is the time to do it. Focus on complimenting him for what you liked on the date. In this case, it’s opening your car door for you. This will reinforce that behavior on future dates!
Why a Good Morning Text is important: You still need to reinforce your interest. It’s early days. He may be going on first dates with several women (it sucks, but it does happen), so you want to stand out and have him move you to the top of the list…or better yet, get rid of the competition!
Good Morning Texts After You’ve Been Intimate
It’s funny how having sex with someone new kinda changes the dynamic between the two of you. Where there might have been sexual tension before, or you might have been more closed off, after you’ve been intimate, you just feel closer and more comfortable with one another.
This is a great opportunity to loosen up in your texts, or even light a little fire in some of them. You don’t have to sext to do it, though! (Though if you’re into sexting, you’re far from alone: 88% of adults have done it.) Here are a few good morning texts you can send.
“Mmm. I dreamed about you. There were no clothes involved…”
This will wake him right up (in more ways than one). You can choose to let his mind wander about what exactly your dream entailed (maybe you didn’t even really have one about him, but he doesn’t have to know that, does he?)…or you can text him details…or promise to show him in person when you see him again.
“Morning. If I didn’t have to go to work today, do you know what I’d do to you?”
This makes him feel like he’s missing out on something great. What would you do to him? All day, his mind will wander. He’ll get nothing done. And you better believe he’s going to make plans with you tonight to find out!
“Hiya! I’m still blushing about what happened last night…”
If you aren’t comfortable taking the sexy vixen route with your texts, play a little schoolgirl innocence. Let him feel like you’re shy and he’s bringing out something new in you.
Why a Good Morning Text is important: These texts give him reassurance that he’s pleasing you, and make him look forward to seeing you again.
Texts for When You Want to Advance the Relationship
So you’ve been dating a few weeks and you’re hoping this will turn into a relationship. It’s time to open up even more with your texts.
“Morning cutie! The highlight of my morning is texting you before work. 😘“
Letting him know that you value these morning texts also subconsciously tells him how much you value him and your relationship. You might take it for granted that he knows how much you like hearing from him in the morning, but he might not, so a text like this is a good way to communicate it.
“Morning! I was thinking about how good we are together as I fell asleep. I think we make a pretty good team.”
You may be shy about talking to him about the fact that you want a relationship with him, so a text like this paves the way to it happening, with or without a conversation. Focus on highlighting what makes the two of you compatible in your texts.
“I woke up with you on my mind…”
Again, you just want to communicate that you’re thinking about him, day and night. If he asks what you were thinking about, figure out what direction you want to take that conversation. Were you thinking about how considerate he is? How sexy? How much you enjoy being with him?
Why a Good Morning Text is important: Creating consistency is part of a good relationship. You’re building a foundation for the future and you’re letting him know with gentle nudges that you’re ready for more.
Good Morning Texts for Him Once You’re in a Relationship
Texting each morning shouldn’t end once you establish a relationship. If anything, it’s even more important to keep the spark lit. It’s all too easy to take one another for granted, but keeping up these daily texts gives you an opportunity to think about and communicate what matters to you about your relationship and what you appreciate about him.
“Morning babe! I just want to say how much I appreciate your support when I’m going through a tough time. It means a lot to me.”
Maybe you cried on his shoulder last night about something that happened at work. It’s important to let him know how much you value him being there for you. This will also inspire him to be supportive even more!
“Good morning, sunshine! Just want to tell you how lucky I feel to have found you. XO”
The longer you are in a relationship, the easier it is to forget to let your boyfriend know how in love with him you are. Saying “I love you” is good, but good morning texts for him like this deepen that connection that you have.
“Howdy! I’m sad that you’re not in bed next to me, but happy that you’re in my life.”
This is another example of how you can express your appreciation and love for the man in your life. It may take effort to come up with something sweet to text—and communication may not be your strong suit. But I just encourage you to write from the heart. If you’ve got a sweet thought in your head, share it with him!
Why a Good Morning Text is important: You want to let him know how much you appreciate and care about him to nurture the relationship. Modify these for your specific situation.
Good Morning Texts NOT to Send Him
We’ve gone through some examples of texts that your guy will be pretty stoked to get, but let’s cover a few ground rules for what you don’t want to do when you text him first thing in the morning.
“Hello?! Why didn’t you respond to me last night?!”
Especially if you haven’t been dating the guy that long, this text is going to rub him the wrong way. I get that you might be upset that he didn’t reply to you, but there are a million possible reasons why he didn’t. He could have gone to bed early. Been out with friends. Or yes, gone out with another woman. If you’re not exclusive, you have no claim on him. Just chill. Find a better way to greet him.
“Hi!!! Had a great time last night! When do you want to go out again?!!”
If you had your first date last night, I get that you’re eager to go out with him again. And probably he is, too. But it never hurts to play a little hard to get. Allow some space between your date and planning the next one. I’m all for you being assertive and asking him out, but wait a few days. You don’t want to seem overeager.
“Hi Ted! Can’t wait to see you tonight!”
This text seems fine, right? Unless you’re texting BILL, who you’re NOT going out with tonight! If you’re dating multiple men, make sure to take the time to proofread the text and doublecheck who you’re texting. You’ll probably miss an opportunity with Bill if you call him by the wrong name!
It can take a bit of practice to get good at texting a man. And each situation I covered in this article is one that requires a slightly different strategy. You’ll find your rhythm, and you’ll figure out what kinds of texts a man responds best to. What worked with the last guy may fall flat with this one, so expect to do a little customization based on the current man’s personality.
So talk to the Sexy Confidence community: what kinds of good morning texts for him have you found to be effective? Leave a comment below!
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